My Big Anniversary

31 Aug

I love anniversaries. I especially enjoy marking a particular date in time because it allows me to think about and feel grateful for what has come around again. I don’t usually place too much emphasis on the actual celebration of anniversaries as I’m kind of an introvert and don’t care for the idea of being the center of attention at a huge party. That being said, I would never turn down a piece of cake (or two) when celebrating any anniversary, and I sincerely believe that the person responsible for choosing cake as the symbol for celebrations is a complete genius and all I have to say to that person is thank you very much.

The reason I got to thinking about anniversaries recently is because I’m coming up on a big one—no, it’s not my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary (did that in June), and no—it’s not my fiftieth birthday (did that in July) and no, it’s not even my seven year-old daughter, Isa’s five year anniversary of being cancer-free (did that in August, and by the way, hands down, it was the greatest anniversary I’ve ever celebrated in my life.)

The BIG anniversary that is coming up next week is that I’ve been blogging for an entire year.

Now, I know—you’re thinking: Whoop-de-do—BIG DEAL—everyone’s a blogger these days! Who cares?

And it’s true—throughout the past year I’ve read hundreds of blogs out there in cyber land and I’m sorely disappointed to report (pure jealously on my part) that there are many, many good—even great—writers out there, blogging regularly and making me laugh, making me cry, and even making me curse aloud and bang my fist on the desk (this is something I do frequently and is often very gratifying—I recommend it highly.)

What’s important about marking my one year blogging anniversary is that what I’ve experienced through blogging has changed me deeply. Through  the act of working through my ideas, writing them down, editing them, and then throwing them out there for you to read if you so have the inclination, I’ve learned a little bit more of who I am. As frightening as that’s been at times, it’s finally allowed me to learn to accept myself. In turn, it’s made it that much easier for me to let go of the hurts from my past. It’s just been damn good therapy! So thank you all for allowing me to be narcissistic and self-absorbed over the past year. I take full responsibility for my utter selfishness, and for this I apologize in earnest.

I’ve learned that blogging is all about connection with others. Through blogging, I’ve strengthened the relationships I have with my friends and family. I’ve reconnected with old friends, and even made new ones. I would’ve never imagined that I could form such a strong bond with a group of women writers from a Facebook group—and that after nurturing our cyber relationships through daily encouragement and support for each other for almost a year, six of us would manage to come together (one woman came all the way from New York!) and meet in person for the first time. It was thrilling and magical—you would have thought by the way we behaved in the restaurant with all the laughing and screaming that we were long-lost sisters who had been separated at birth!

So I want you to know how appreciative I am that you’ve read my blog posts and have left me such lovely and thoughtful comments. Only my fellow bloggers know how very exciting it is to hear my smart phone ding notifying me of an email that says:

telling  me that someone has left me a comment on my blog. It’s like receiving a special present each time it happens.

This connection I share with all of you has made me realize just how very lucky I am to have had this blogging experience over the past year. And now that I’m finally in that place where I’ve longed to be all of my life—the place where I can say that I’m actually happy—really blissfully happy, I’ll probably never write another blog post again.

Well, all right, I will.

If you insist.

31 Responses to “My Big Anniversary”

  1. darlenecraviotto August 31, 2012 at 8:47 am #

    Congratulations!!! I read somewhere that the average blog only lasts three months, but you’ve discovered the successful quotient to blogging: You have to love people. More importantly, you have to love connecting with people. It’s not about the number of hits you get at your site or how many comments are left there. What’s important is putting yourself out there – your emotions, feelings, ideas, and thoughts, and wanting to have a good, honest conversation with people. As one of your readers, I’d definitely say you’re doing a great job. Many happy returns!

    • Lisa August 31, 2012 at 8:54 am #

      Bless you, Jessica, as you continue on your journey for lasting happiness and “bliss”. The God of this universe is smiling down on you, too, with a gift of peace that passes all understanding. Taking risks to seek will always lead to finding that for which your heart is longing. I am happy for you, on this meaningful anniversary. Keep it up! We love sharing in your heart adventures!

      • Allegro non tanto August 31, 2012 at 10:03 am #

        Bless you too, Lisa! I know you’re the kind of woman who follows her dreams, too. So glad we’ve made this connection with each other!

    • Allegro non tanto August 31, 2012 at 10:02 am #

      You’re so right, Darlene!I DO LOVE PEOPLE! Everyone one of us has something unique to share, and discovering this about each other is fascinating! Thanks for following me–I so appreciate it!

  2. Beth Fairfield August 31, 2012 at 8:52 am #

    That is a wonderful milestone to celebrate Jessica! Congratulations! I too have benefited and reflected each time you post. I am always excited to read your blog when it shows up in my in-box…. Thank you for sharing and inspiring!

  3. Becky Green Aaronson August 31, 2012 at 10:08 am #

    DING! Your smart phone wants you to hear my big, heartfelt CONGRATULATIONS on your one year blogiversary. Woohoo!

    Your blog inspires me every single time I read it, so plleeeaaase keep blogging…I insist! 🙂

    • Allegro non tanto August 31, 2012 at 10:17 am #

      Oh the thrill of that DING! Thank you my lovely friend for always leading the way for me. Without you, I’d still be thinking about blogging instead of actually doing it!

  4. injaynesworld August 31, 2012 at 10:09 am #

    Congratulations! Like you, I had no idea of the journey blogging would lead me on and the wonderful people I would meet. I’m so happy our paths have crossed in both worlds. Keep writing, my friend. Hugs!

  5. akismet-32413b224e7bf3d13069184e51efa866 August 31, 2012 at 12:23 pm #

    Beautifully put Jessica. I sooo related. It was very frightening for me to blog, paralyzing even and took me a long time before I could sit down without a gallon of vodka (just joshing, okay it was wine) to get even a few words down. In fact, I ignored my first blogging anniversary (November 2011) because I didn’t want people to know how long I’d been blogging and only had two followers (okay four). It was anxious making but now I don’t care how many read my blog. It has opened up another world for me with people like you in it.

    • Allegro non tanto August 31, 2012 at 12:28 pm #

      YOU ARE SO FUNNY! Which is why I love being a part of this incredible group of witty, clever and thoughtful writers who can create works of art with the written word. It’s just mind boggling!

  6. Julie Barnes August 31, 2012 at 12:46 pm #

    I think you would be happier if we went to the San Ysidro Ranch for lunch, again! When? I love you. Congratulations on ALL your wonderful anniversaries. I am so proud of you. Love Julie

    Julie Barnes Village Properties Realtors License #01107109 4050 Calle Real Santa Barbara, CA 93110 805/895-9498


    • Allegro non tanto August 31, 2012 at 12:48 pm #

      I was just thinking of calling you! It’s my treat this time! XXOO

  7. Eleanor Winters August 31, 2012 at 2:06 pm #

    Yes, indeed, I insist. Keep writing, Jess. You are on a remarkable journey and thank you for sharing it with us: a really big thanks! I appreciate what you have been writing.

    • Allegro non tanto September 1, 2012 at 8:45 am #

      Thanks, Mama. I’ll try not to write too much bad stuff about you….:)

  8. Cyndi August 31, 2012 at 5:50 pm #

    Love you a ton. Have a piece of cake for me. Hee hee. Kiss my girl for me.. And Renee.. Oh shoot, just kiss everyone for me and have Renee plant a huge one on you for me too.

    • Allegro non tanto September 1, 2012 at 8:46 am #

      Love you a ton, too my dear! Per your request, kisses have been passed all around!

  9. Tracey September 1, 2012 at 4:49 am #

    Happy anniversary! You’re the 2nd blog I follow that’s celebrating the big #1 this week. Now go have some cake!!!

  10. Melanie September 1, 2012 at 7:13 pm #

    I love that you celebrate this milestone–and the others too: intention and gratitude bring greater meaning to what we do. I absolutely understand why this is a “big” anniversary, and am honored to be witness to it. From one cake connoisseur (sp.) to another, I insist that you keep on blogging and eating cake on anniversaries with abandon. Gosh, I hope you marked this anniversary with a cake.

    • Allegro non tanto September 1, 2012 at 9:12 pm #

      Thanks for being one of my favorite followers, Melanie! Your comments are so thoughtful and mean so much to me.

  11. Deborah Batterman September 1, 2012 at 9:05 pm #

    A hearty ‘yes’ to the connections we forge with our words. . . and to that extra (rich) dimension added when those connections bring us face-to-face. It’s a gift, isn’t it?, to be witnesses to each other’s journey, Happy Anniversary 🙂

    • Allegro non tanto September 1, 2012 at 9:11 pm #

      It is a gift! And thank you for being part of my celebration, my friend! Hope you enjoyed the rest of your trip–it was such a joy to finally meet you in person!

  12. Leah September 2, 2012 at 9:25 am #

    Congratulations on one year of blogging! I always enjoy reading your posts and I’m glad your voice has been out here in the blog-o-sphere. Keep it up!

  13. Charla Bregante September 3, 2012 at 5:06 pm #

    I, for one, INSIST you keep at it. And I couldn’t agree more with everything you said about the experience of blogging. I’ve loved writing mine and reading yours. Congratulations on hitting the one year mark.

    • Allegro non tanto September 4, 2012 at 10:35 pm #

      Thanks, Charla. I’m so happy that you’re blogging too—I really enjoy everything you write!

  14. happykidshappymom September 5, 2012 at 10:08 am #

    Congratulations, Jessica, for ALL your anniversaries — but most especially for Isa’s! 🙂 Boy, the summer is a good time of year for you, huh? 🙂

    I’m so glad you’ve reached your first blog-iversary, and I wish you many, many more. You are a great, colorful and powerful writer and I enjoy your blog very much!

    But I don’t like cake (I know, weird). So to celebrate, I’ll have a cookie for you. Or a few cookies. Yum.

    • Allegro non tanto September 5, 2012 at 10:20 am #

      Thanks so much, Melissa! And please eat as many of those cookies as you wish and I will enjoy them in spirit (I’m on a high protein/low carb diet so I haven’t had a cookie or a piece of cake since my birthday in July! But I’ve lost 17 pounds so I guess it’s worth the sacrifice!) Can’t wait to hear what you’ve been up to lately–I’ve missed you!

      • happykidshappymom September 5, 2012 at 10:24 am #

        I’m on a high carb/low protein diet — and so the cookies won’t be a problem. 🙂 My waistline will, but I keep finding good, solid excuses to put off worrying about that.

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