Different Cups of Coffee

10 Aug


c2a98633-8524-45d7-9844-0aedd3daff88Today I found myself falling back in love with my husband. This is no small feat considering we’ve been together since 1985, married over thirty years with four children, during which time I’ve learned many things, one being that I’m absolutely capable of murder.

As most married couples, we have our certain routines. Please don’t tell anyone, but we eat breakfast at McDonald’s. Often. And there is an exact procedure that we follow with our breakfast ritual: Before leaving the house, I order my Venti Decaf Skinny Mocha from Starbucks using the app on my phone so I don’t have to wait in line (one of the greatest inventions ever created.) Then I drop Rene off at McDonald’s and head over to Anna’s Bakery where I order him a sesame bagel (double toasted), a muffin for me (pumpkin or blueberry oatmeal) and a crème-filled chocolate donut for Isa if she’s with us. We then meet up at McDonald’s where Rene has ordered scrambled eggs and his beloved McDonald’s coffee. We grab a window table and after greeting the locals, we eat our breakfast and talk.

Most times we talk about our work, our students—our family and friends. We often run into people we know (it’s astounding how many people my husband knows in our community) and have a quick chat with them. Sometimes, during our conversations we get angry with each other, usually when the topic is our children; he wants to push them and I want to defend them. Mostly, we talk and laugh. Throughout the years we’ve had some deep, philosophical discussions under the glare of those fluorescent lights.

Today was really no different than usual, except that as René spoke about his latest trip back home to Oaxaca, and how much he appreciates his life there and well as the life we’ve created together here, I realized how deep my love is for my husband. I’m so very lucky to be married to a man who is so different than I—in language, culture and background. Over the years, he’s exposed me to a world I never would have known or appreciated if I had married someone like me. And I guess I’ve done the same for him. The reality is that although we sip our coffee from two different cups, we’re drinking the same thing.

The other night, René pulled out some love letters I’d written to him when he’d gone back to Oaxaca after we first began dating in 1985. The words written by that young girl were so full of love and promise. At twenty-three, she didn’t know if he was coming back to her, but it didn’t matter. She loved him and she wasn’t afraid to tell him.

She must’ve been a pretty persuasive writer because he ended up coming back. And it’s been a pretty good life so far. We’ll see how it goes over the next thirty years.

You can find us having coffee at McDonald’s.

11 Responses to “Different Cups of Coffee”

  1. brittonswingler August 10, 2017 at 12:45 pm #

    This is so poignant and sweet. I could picture you in that heart-flushed, fluorescent moment of appreciation in which you became for a second, that love-struck girl who waited and hoped. I’m glad you have each other…

  2. debatterman August 10, 2017 at 1:38 pm #

    Oh, my!–breakfast at McDonald’s 😉 Seriously, you had me smiling all the way through. Enduring love is not something to take for granted, and I know the feeling well re: a moment that almost catches you by surprise with its reminder/affirmation of at least one thing you love about your husband. We’re up there with you re: 30+ years of marriage.

    • Allegro non tanto August 10, 2017 at 7:23 pm #

      Quite a milestone for both of us! We writers are certainly patient and stalwart beings!

  3. darlenecraviotto August 10, 2017 at 1:45 pm #

    This is so beautiful and just perfect in every way. Thanks for writing this and for giving me an idea that I will share with my husband of 37 years. You might just see a lot of Goleta couples having breakfast together at McDonalds after posting this!

    • Allegro non tanto August 10, 2017 at 7:24 pm #

      See you at McDonald’s, Darlene!

      • Allegro non tanto August 10, 2017 at 7:30 pm #

        By the way, I’m loving Californio! And my husband wanted you to know that one of his favorite movies is Squanto! He’s been sharing it with his students every Thanksgiving for years. He says he appreciates it because he is an indigenous Zapotec and that Squanto is a hero who was able to learn English and help his people. Most of his students are English-learners and Squanto has always been an inspiration to them.

  4. Charla Bregante August 13, 2017 at 7:00 am #

    Beautiful, Jessie. You are a lucky woman. And Rene is pretty darn lucky too! Thank you for sharing your love story.

  5. Deborah Mele August 13, 2017 at 9:40 am #

    Love the story

  6. Melanie Jacobson August 15, 2017 at 6:42 am #

    Made my day! Great piece, love-inspired.

  7. Suzanne August 31, 2017 at 11:11 am #

    A really lovely blog to read today, Jessica! Blessed life, lucky twosome you are!

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